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Published May 13, 2009 02:50 pm - If you are in the mood for a feel-good, give-you-a-lift type of column, to make you forget the economy and all of your troubles, this isn't it.

Kids more likely to accept wrong parent
A ROBERT LEBZELTER column for May 17, 2009

Star Beacon

If you are in the mood for a feel-good, give-you-a-lift type of column, to make you forget the economy and all of your troubles, this isn't it.

Unless you happen to be a mother.

Yeah, I know, Mother's Day was last weekend. But I can only get to one topic at a time. Consider this an early Father's Day column

So here is the bombshell: Given their choice, people would overwhelmingly choose to have their mother move in with them, over their father.

A study by Senior Helpers, which purports to be the nation's fastest growing provider of in-home care for seniors, found 70 percent of adult children (isn't that an oxymoron?) would overwhelming choose their mom over their dad to move in with them if elderly parents couldn't take care of themselves.

The study also found 67 percent said if mom wasn't able to move in, they would prefer mom live on her own with help, rather than in a nursing home or assisted living facility. The study also shows 80 percent of both men and women say they would pay out of their own pocket for their parents’ care.

This study was conducted online by Zoomerang.com, which polled 300 people. And yes, it was evenly divided between men and women, who were between ages 25 and 64. (I was wondering if the study was conducted mainly with women. Apparently not)

Other results:

Daughters were more likely than sons to have mom move in, 80 percent, compared to 65 percent for men.

At the same time, 30 percent didn't want mom moving in at all (that statistic a courtesy for all of you who are math-challenged, since I already reported 70 percent do.) Main reasons cited, mom would disrupt their lives, they did not have enough room and couldn't provide adequate care

People in the Northeast and Southeast were most agreeable to the move. People in the Midwest were least likely.

The survey finds 72 percent of females and 58 percent of men said they would move dad in if he could not care for himself.

Now some might argue I have a hard time taking care of myself now, but I am learning. Just recently I discovered that after my shower, the washcloth doesn't magically get clean. You can't leave it draped over the tub. I found from the bathtub, I could toss it into the clothes basket and wife Louise would take that and assorted towels and dirty clothing downstairs and put it in this giant contraption that sucks in water and somehow gets it all clean again. Yeah, who woulda thought?

I can remember a couple of decades ago when my kids were in elementary school. Louise was busy teaching math during the day and since I didn't go to work until later, I took on the role of room parent. You may have heard the term "room mother" instead.

Yes, Louise would make the cookies or cupcakes the night before a room party (usually held for Halloween, Christmas, Valentine's Day, birthday) but I was the one who delivered them, help clean up juice-box spills and smiled at the Jehovah Witness kid who couldn't participate.



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